mailsunnydeol
07-22 01:35 PM
Here are my details on EAD renewal:
Type: e-filed
Self:
RD: 06/19/08
Docs Sent: 07/08/08
FP: 07/16/08
LUD: 07/21/08
AD: 07/21/08
Wife:
RD: 06/19/08
Docs Sent: 07/08/08
FP: 07/16/08
LUD: 07/16/08
AD: ?
Type: e-filed
Self:
RD: 06/19/08
Docs Sent: 07/08/08
FP: 07/16/08
LUD: 07/21/08
AD: 07/21/08
Wife:
RD: 06/19/08
Docs Sent: 07/08/08
FP: 07/16/08
LUD: 07/16/08
AD: ?
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walking_dude
11-21 03:15 PM
You have some very valid points about community (non)participation in your post.
I understand your point about having another rally. Make no mistake - IV core has no problems with planning and conducting another rally. So it's not a big issue to get them to agree. I can push IV core, and get another rally. Bigger issue is how many are going to turn up? If it's just 100-200 of us same-old folks, there is no point.
Last year when we were bouyed by the success of July VB reversal, it was estimated that at least 10,000 would turn up. But, only 2000 did. I don't know how many will, if we hold another few months from now?
IV can sponsor more ACTION (items). But what's point, if there is not enough participation? First step is the community needs to step up and make existing action items such as FOIA requests for backlog numbers, AC21 action items successful. This will motivate IV to launch more action items. No organization would want to be seen running too many campaigns with liitle or no community participation.
We need the IV core team and the administrator to guide some big rally's. Guys nothing will happen until we are bold about our intentions.
I noticed everyone comes up with their different ideas, but no one works to implement it. We need to stand together and do something big, when was the last time we had a big rally?
And how many people actually showed up? Desi's wants everything fast and free, the problem is lately IV thinks too much and has less of ACTION
I understand your point about having another rally. Make no mistake - IV core has no problems with planning and conducting another rally. So it's not a big issue to get them to agree. I can push IV core, and get another rally. Bigger issue is how many are going to turn up? If it's just 100-200 of us same-old folks, there is no point.
Last year when we were bouyed by the success of July VB reversal, it was estimated that at least 10,000 would turn up. But, only 2000 did. I don't know how many will, if we hold another few months from now?
IV can sponsor more ACTION (items). But what's point, if there is not enough participation? First step is the community needs to step up and make existing action items such as FOIA requests for backlog numbers, AC21 action items successful. This will motivate IV to launch more action items. No organization would want to be seen running too many campaigns with liitle or no community participation.
We need the IV core team and the administrator to guide some big rally's. Guys nothing will happen until we are bold about our intentions.
I noticed everyone comes up with their different ideas, but no one works to implement it. We need to stand together and do something big, when was the last time we had a big rally?
And how many people actually showed up? Desi's wants everything fast and free, the problem is lately IV thinks too much and has less of ACTION
gc_on_demand
11-03 09:03 AM
During lame duck session , Dems will not push for CIR and Republican will oppose it.
They will come to compromise on Dream Act. Chances are there some pro legal - immigrant republican may add Visa recapture.
They will come to compromise on Dream Act. Chances are there some pro legal - immigrant republican may add Visa recapture.
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kumar1
07-19 01:55 PM
Thanks to every person who answered this post. I managed to get an appointment in mumbai for Aug 2nd. This will give enough time to send necessary document from my end and also give enough breathing to file the application.
Very good, ask your wife to bring a load of sweets for IV member. ;)
Very good, ask your wife to bring a load of sweets for IV member. ;)
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brawn81
01-14 10:08 AM
Transit visa is needed for indian citizens who are travelling with AP and without visa through lufthansa/Germany.
Here is my conversation with German embassy.
Exception Number 3 apply to you. So that means that you need to apply
for an airport transit visa.
Kind regards,
>
> Visa Department
> German Consulate General
> 871 United Nations Plaza
> New York, NY 10017
> visa@newy.diplo.de <mailto:visa@newy.diplo.de>
>
> German Missions in the United States - Visa (http://www.germany.info/visa) <http://www.germany.info/visa>
>
xx schrieb am 13.01.2011 18:45 Uhr:
> Thanks for the quick reply. I have valid employment authorization card
> for the U.S, valid Advance parole paper (512-L, Authorization for
> parole of an Alien Into the United States. as mentioned in exception 3.
>
> Can you confirm that I dont need transit visa.
>
> /Thanks,/
> /xx./
>
>
>
>
> > Date: Thu, 13 Jan 2011 13:36:31 -0500
> > From: xx@newy.auswaertiges-amt.de
> > To: xx@hotmail.com
> > Subject: your inquiry
> >
> > Dear xx,
> >
> > thank you for your inquiry.
> >
> > As a citizen of India you are required to apply for an airport transit
> > visa. However, there are certain exceptions to this rule. The
> exceptions
> > are listed in the section on Airport Transit Visa on our website
> > German Missions in the United States - Visa (http://www.germany.info/visa) <http://www.germany.info/visa> . (The direct link
> > is:
> >
> German Missions in the United States - Transit Visa Country List (http://www.germany.info/Vertretung/usa/en/04__Legal/02__Directory__Services/01__Visa/__Transit__Country__List__Visa.html)
>
> > )
> >
> > *_Please note the following further explanations:_*
> >
> > *_ _*
> >
> > *Exception 1)* �If they hold a valid visa for the United States of
> > America� � this means that the U.S. visa stamp in your passport must be
> > still valid on the day of your airport transit
> >
> > _ _
> >
> > *Exception 2)* �If they return from the USA after having used the visa�
> > � this means that the
> >
> > the U.S. visa stamp in your passport must be still valid on the day of
> > your airport transit, OR that the visa has expired within the last 3-4
> > days. If the U.S. visa in your passport has expired for longer that 3-4
> > days ago, you are required to obtain a transit visa. __
> >
> > *Exception 3) *All travelers holding a
> >
> > - valid Approval Notice (I 797)
> >
> > - valid I 94
> >
> > - valid employment authorization card for the U.S.
> >
> > - valid Advance parole paper (512-L, Authorization for parole of an
> > Alien Into the United States, )
> >
> > also *have to apply for an airport transit visa* according to European
> > Union legislation, as those documents are not listed under exception 3.
> >
> > Applicants are required to submit their application in person at our
> > Consulate. You may find a list of required documents at
> > German Missions in the United States - Visa (http://www.germany.info/visa) <http://www.germany.info/visa>. Please schedule a
> > visa appointment online at German Missions in the United States - Address, Contact, Hours (http://www.germany.info/nyappointment)
> > <http://www.germany.info/nyappointment> prior visit at our Consulate.
> >
> > The visa processing time for Indian Nationals takes approx. 2 business
> > days.
> > For a postage fee of $19 we may mail your passport back via FedEx once
> > the visa has been processed.
> >
> > Kind regards,
> >
> > Visa Department
> > German Consulate General
> > 871 United Nations Plaza
> > New York, NY 10017
> > visa@newy.diplo.de <mailto:visa@newy.diplo.de>
> >
> > German Missions in the United States - Visa (http://www.germany.info/visa) <http://www.germany.info/visa>
> >
> >
> >
> >
Here is my conversation with German embassy.
Exception Number 3 apply to you. So that means that you need to apply
for an airport transit visa.
Kind regards,
>
> Visa Department
> German Consulate General
> 871 United Nations Plaza
> New York, NY 10017
> visa@newy.diplo.de <mailto:visa@newy.diplo.de>
>
> German Missions in the United States - Visa (http://www.germany.info/visa) <http://www.germany.info/visa>
>
xx schrieb am 13.01.2011 18:45 Uhr:
> Thanks for the quick reply. I have valid employment authorization card
> for the U.S, valid Advance parole paper (512-L, Authorization for
> parole of an Alien Into the United States. as mentioned in exception 3.
>
> Can you confirm that I dont need transit visa.
>
> /Thanks,/
> /xx./
>
>
>
>
> > Date: Thu, 13 Jan 2011 13:36:31 -0500
> > From: xx@newy.auswaertiges-amt.de
> > To: xx@hotmail.com
> > Subject: your inquiry
> >
> > Dear xx,
> >
> > thank you for your inquiry.
> >
> > As a citizen of India you are required to apply for an airport transit
> > visa. However, there are certain exceptions to this rule. The
> exceptions
> > are listed in the section on Airport Transit Visa on our website
> > German Missions in the United States - Visa (http://www.germany.info/visa) <http://www.germany.info/visa> . (The direct link
> > is:
> >
> German Missions in the United States - Transit Visa Country List (http://www.germany.info/Vertretung/usa/en/04__Legal/02__Directory__Services/01__Visa/__Transit__Country__List__Visa.html)
>
> > )
> >
> > *_Please note the following further explanations:_*
> >
> > *_ _*
> >
> > *Exception 1)* �If they hold a valid visa for the United States of
> > America� � this means that the U.S. visa stamp in your passport must be
> > still valid on the day of your airport transit
> >
> > _ _
> >
> > *Exception 2)* �If they return from the USA after having used the visa�
> > � this means that the
> >
> > the U.S. visa stamp in your passport must be still valid on the day of
> > your airport transit, OR that the visa has expired within the last 3-4
> > days. If the U.S. visa in your passport has expired for longer that 3-4
> > days ago, you are required to obtain a transit visa. __
> >
> > *Exception 3) *All travelers holding a
> >
> > - valid Approval Notice (I 797)
> >
> > - valid I 94
> >
> > - valid employment authorization card for the U.S.
> >
> > - valid Advance parole paper (512-L, Authorization for parole of an
> > Alien Into the United States, )
> >
> > also *have to apply for an airport transit visa* according to European
> > Union legislation, as those documents are not listed under exception 3.
> >
> > Applicants are required to submit their application in person at our
> > Consulate. You may find a list of required documents at
> > German Missions in the United States - Visa (http://www.germany.info/visa) <http://www.germany.info/visa>. Please schedule a
> > visa appointment online at German Missions in the United States - Address, Contact, Hours (http://www.germany.info/nyappointment)
> > <http://www.germany.info/nyappointment> prior visit at our Consulate.
> >
> > The visa processing time for Indian Nationals takes approx. 2 business
> > days.
> > For a postage fee of $19 we may mail your passport back via FedEx once
> > the visa has been processed.
> >
> > Kind regards,
> >
> > Visa Department
> > German Consulate General
> > 871 United Nations Plaza
> > New York, NY 10017
> > visa@newy.diplo.de <mailto:visa@newy.diplo.de>
> >
> > German Missions in the United States - Visa (http://www.germany.info/visa) <http://www.germany.info/visa>
> >
> >
> >
> >
lfadgyas
07-22 09:42 PM
Although I�m happy with my current employer I just wish for having such a problem � you have to wait 5 more months � or maybe 6 and there you go.
We have to wait years here and have to be careful for everything � renew EAD, renew AP in time (how about H1 and L1's not able to file for GC ... ), oh yeah -do not change job or if you do you have to be conform with certain things; and do not be laid off since other than not having income it sucks a bit from the immigration side too�; and so on, sorry guys something is really f�. up here;
Hope all turns out ok for all of us - and that includes you also.... :)
We have to wait years here and have to be careful for everything � renew EAD, renew AP in time (how about H1 and L1's not able to file for GC ... ), oh yeah -do not change job or if you do you have to be conform with certain things; and do not be laid off since other than not having income it sucks a bit from the immigration side too�; and so on, sorry guys something is really f�. up here;
Hope all turns out ok for all of us - and that includes you also.... :)
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copsmart
10-10 07:56 AM
Everest Technology? Sounds so familiar, but definitely they are not in the list of blood suckers I dealt with.
There are thousands of bloodsuckers like this one, they know the Immigration law better than anybody else do, they will do anything to stop you from leaving their company.
BTW, you don�t need the copy of I-140 for using AC21 portability.
You might need a copy when you apply for a 3 years H1 extension, double check this with an attorney.
If I were you, I wouldn�t stick with this employer, I would definitely use AC21 after 180 days.
Good Luck!
There are thousands of bloodsuckers like this one, they know the Immigration law better than anybody else do, they will do anything to stop you from leaving their company.
BTW, you don�t need the copy of I-140 for using AC21 portability.
You might need a copy when you apply for a 3 years H1 extension, double check this with an attorney.
If I were you, I wouldn�t stick with this employer, I would definitely use AC21 after 180 days.
Good Luck!
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slowwin
05-15 05:54 PM
The Bill says "in a field of science"......which also includes MBA.......
science is "a branch of knowledge or study dealing with a body of facts or truths systematically arranged and showing the operation of general laws" OR
"a particular branch of knowledge." for more definitions check dictionary.com
It does not matter what the dictionary defines SCIENCE as. STEM degrees are defined by USCIS. OPT extension to 29 months applies to STEM degrees too:mad:
science is "a branch of knowledge or study dealing with a body of facts or truths systematically arranged and showing the operation of general laws" OR
"a particular branch of knowledge." for more definitions check dictionary.com
It does not matter what the dictionary defines SCIENCE as. STEM degrees are defined by USCIS. OPT extension to 29 months applies to STEM degrees too:mad:
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krishnam70
07-08 01:12 PM
ANALYSE YOUR ANSWER YOU MAKE MY POINTS VERY VALID
NO SELF RESPECT
WHITE KISS ARCE ...
SUBMISSIVE U NEED A WHITE MASTER ...
AND TO ACHIEVE YOUR GOALS YOU RESOLRT TO THE MAN WITH THE DHOTI ...GANDHIGIRI...
GRAVITATION DID ANYONE EVER TELL YOU THAT YOU ARE AN IDIOT
Thats one hell of an accusation 'hopeful'.
If you believe in what you said then you would not be in this forum. Why are you in this country?
1. If you said you came here for your Master's and then found and job and applied for GC and been stuck there and now realized that this process stinks and decided to go back its fine by me, then you have no place here.
2. If you said you came here after your education on work visa and then applied for GC and stuck here and now realized that this process stinks and decided to go back its fine by me, then you have no place here
3. If you feel superior to all the folks who are in this forum then you have no place here.
4. If you think working for some company as a FT employee makes you qualified,oh btw i dont care if its a Fortune 10 company, been there done that, then you have no reason to be here. After all you think you are priveleged and superior to other folks in here.
5. Whats this superiority of being a FT employee over Contractor? I have been in this country now for over 10 yrs and worked as FT employee and Contractor. I dont see anything special in being a FT employee over a contractor. Just because you became a FT employee does not mean the company thinks you are the most perfect person to be their employee, it means you fit in their budget and they want to milk you services, so you become a 'one client wonder'. Contractor on the other hand gets paid more, gets to work on different projects . There is some uncertaininty due to job changes etc but if we are tracking it right its works well, in my last 4 yrs of contracting never been out of job.
6. What I have seen by the way you bash others in this thread shows that you somehow think you are superior to others(which is okay if you keep it to yourself). Pardon me for saying this, you are stepping over the line. Few days ago there was a thread where one guy got banned due to some stupid comments like you about fake degrees, fake resumes and that he was somehow more deserving of the GC than the others.
when you are in a public forum conduct yourself with dignity and try to help others and get help and not try to push your convoluted ideas and come across as a jerk. Staying in this country means many things to different people and does not constitute to not loving our home countries in anyway
I am sorry I must say its you who has to think before you open your trap dude..
NO SELF RESPECT
WHITE KISS ARCE ...
SUBMISSIVE U NEED A WHITE MASTER ...
AND TO ACHIEVE YOUR GOALS YOU RESOLRT TO THE MAN WITH THE DHOTI ...GANDHIGIRI...
GRAVITATION DID ANYONE EVER TELL YOU THAT YOU ARE AN IDIOT
Thats one hell of an accusation 'hopeful'.
If you believe in what you said then you would not be in this forum. Why are you in this country?
1. If you said you came here for your Master's and then found and job and applied for GC and been stuck there and now realized that this process stinks and decided to go back its fine by me, then you have no place here.
2. If you said you came here after your education on work visa and then applied for GC and stuck here and now realized that this process stinks and decided to go back its fine by me, then you have no place here
3. If you feel superior to all the folks who are in this forum then you have no place here.
4. If you think working for some company as a FT employee makes you qualified,oh btw i dont care if its a Fortune 10 company, been there done that, then you have no reason to be here. After all you think you are priveleged and superior to other folks in here.
5. Whats this superiority of being a FT employee over Contractor? I have been in this country now for over 10 yrs and worked as FT employee and Contractor. I dont see anything special in being a FT employee over a contractor. Just because you became a FT employee does not mean the company thinks you are the most perfect person to be their employee, it means you fit in their budget and they want to milk you services, so you become a 'one client wonder'. Contractor on the other hand gets paid more, gets to work on different projects . There is some uncertaininty due to job changes etc but if we are tracking it right its works well, in my last 4 yrs of contracting never been out of job.
6. What I have seen by the way you bash others in this thread shows that you somehow think you are superior to others(which is okay if you keep it to yourself). Pardon me for saying this, you are stepping over the line. Few days ago there was a thread where one guy got banned due to some stupid comments like you about fake degrees, fake resumes and that he was somehow more deserving of the GC than the others.
when you are in a public forum conduct yourself with dignity and try to help others and get help and not try to push your convoluted ideas and come across as a jerk. Staying in this country means many things to different people and does not constitute to not loving our home countries in anyway
I am sorry I must say its you who has to think before you open your trap dude..
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saimrathi
07-06 02:14 PM
Thanks.. WIll def watch...
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EBX-Man
05-11 03:57 PM
Ahhh !!!! the junior members come out of the wood work with enthusiasm and fire. let us see how long this lasts !!!!, Only untIl the next VB I would assume
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sasidhar79
11-03 01:05 PM
President Obama is not just far left.
He is far too liberal(left) fiscally and far too conservative(right) socially.
What does that say ? No relief for us from him, we should look forward for someone else to help us.
He is far too liberal(left) fiscally and far too conservative(right) socially.
What does that say ? No relief for us from him, we should look forward for someone else to help us.
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swarnapuri
07-17 10:07 AM
I am still not able to see, can you tell me what dates I-140 advanced degree are being processed.
September 14, 2006
September 14, 2006
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Munna Bhai
05-14 10:04 AM
I read somewhere and thought to share it...anyway I feel very sorry for you
When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.
Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why? I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man!
That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; I had lost my heart to a lovely girl called Dew. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her!
With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, 30% shares of my company and the car. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Dew so dearly.
Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.
The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Dew. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.
In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a months time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.
This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day.. She requested that everyday for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy.
Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.
I told Dew about my wife s divorce conditions. She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully. My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mummy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset..
I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.
On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest.. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.
On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Dew about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.
She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily. Suddenly it hit me; she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart.
Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head. Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mum out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.
But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind... I walked upstairs. Dew opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Dew, I do not want the divorce anymore.
She looked at me, astonished. Then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Dew, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other any more.. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death does us apart.
Dew seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote:
'I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart'
The small details of our lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, the property, the bank balance that matters. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!
If you don't share this, nothing will happen to you, but if you do, you just might save a marriage.
Relationships are made not to exploit, not to be broken.
We teach some by what we say
We teach some more by what we do
But we teach most by what we are
You don't get to choose how you are going to die, or when, but, you can decide how you are going to live, here and now.
Don't preach...if this is your life..keep it with yourself..others have other reason to move forward with their life..no one has asked for any advise..just answer his questions..
When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.
Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why? I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man!
That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; I had lost my heart to a lovely girl called Dew. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her!
With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, 30% shares of my company and the car. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Dew so dearly.
Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.
The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Dew. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.
In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a months time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.
This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day.. She requested that everyday for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy.
Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.
I told Dew about my wife s divorce conditions. She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully. My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mummy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset..
I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.
On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest.. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.
On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Dew about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.
She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily. Suddenly it hit me; she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart.
Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head. Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mum out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.
But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind... I walked upstairs. Dew opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Dew, I do not want the divorce anymore.
She looked at me, astonished. Then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Dew, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other any more.. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death does us apart.
Dew seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote:
'I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart'
The small details of our lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, the property, the bank balance that matters. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!
If you don't share this, nothing will happen to you, but if you do, you just might save a marriage.
Relationships are made not to exploit, not to be broken.
We teach some by what we say
We teach some more by what we do
But we teach most by what we are
You don't get to choose how you are going to die, or when, but, you can decide how you are going to live, here and now.
Don't preach...if this is your life..keep it with yourself..others have other reason to move forward with their life..no one has asked for any advise..just answer his questions..
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satishku_2000
08-20 04:08 PM
You may be able lodge a complaint at your district attorneys office. you have to find your local DA's details. If you are from one of the coasts the chances of your DA's office having a section for immigration related complaints is high.
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BharatPremi
11-06 04:35 PM
gives good insight about the infopass
Thanks buddy.
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04-01 03:16 PM
sent the fax.
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webm
10-30 03:01 PM
PD: EB3 ROW, Apr 2004, Current now
I-140 :Approved on Mar 2006
Invoked AC21 on September and sent all necessary docs. No LUDs then.
I think ex-employer have revoked I-140 already but not sure (He threaten me in 2007 that he will do so in I invoke AC21).
Now check this out:
Soft LUD on I-140 on 10/15/2008.
Soft LUD on I-485 on 10/24/2008.
Soft LUD on my spouse's I-485 on 10/27/2008.
Soft LUD on I-485 on 10/29/2008.
Soft LUD on I-140 on 10/30/2008.
Soft LUD on I-485 on 10/30/2008.
I am clueless! Somebody please help me! :confused:
good luck for you!...looks there might be some activity going on with your case or it could be a just routine update..we never know..keep hope.. :)
I-140 :Approved on Mar 2006
Invoked AC21 on September and sent all necessary docs. No LUDs then.
I think ex-employer have revoked I-140 already but not sure (He threaten me in 2007 that he will do so in I invoke AC21).
Now check this out:
Soft LUD on I-140 on 10/15/2008.
Soft LUD on I-485 on 10/24/2008.
Soft LUD on my spouse's I-485 on 10/27/2008.
Soft LUD on I-485 on 10/29/2008.
Soft LUD on I-140 on 10/30/2008.
Soft LUD on I-485 on 10/30/2008.
I am clueless! Somebody please help me! :confused:
good luck for you!...looks there might be some activity going on with your case or it could be a just routine update..we never know..keep hope.. :)
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SkilledWorker4GC
07-08 04:32 PM
I dont think we could expect such thing from our community as we are born selfish and scared of things. Everone is just hoping that some miracle will happen and everyone will get their GCs. Or else people are happy with EAD/h1b renewals.We really lack the kind of leadership and atitude we had before independece both at home in india and here.I think people have made immigration problems as part of the many problems they have in their lives.
Leave alone ABCDs, Vinodh Khosla ka Ghosla, or Jindals or all the big shots ATA or TANA.
For a moment - lets look at our own community that is affected.
For all those who are not affected - this may seem a non issue except for universities, hospitals, and companies like MSFT etc.. where competition and talent is of high importance and where talent cannot be compromised and this mess is affecting them - it is OONLY these people who will support us and that too, they press more on h1b rather than green cards because they want man power and dont mind if it is h1b or GC. For an avg desi or any immigrant who is looking for a h1b, he has NO clue about this mess and will be glad to embrace the H1b quota increase and OPT extensions as everyone think GC is not an issue these days.
For a moment - look at the community that is affected - people like us. WE have to be on top of this. The backlogs seem to be close to a million and look at the number of people trying to do something about the situation. Anti immigrants paint us in bad light, media confuses our issues and writes rubbish, Lou Dobbs makes baseless comments and everyone in our community does nothing but trying to track EAD etc... A handful of people make phone calls, a handful send letters, a handful help IV. Others just sit and watch and pretend they don't know anything. When we make request to join state chapters very few join. Out of that very few actively participate in activities. When IIV asks people to enter a correct profile - very few do it.
Things will improve ONLY of the entire community stands up on their own without expecting others to do something for them
Leave alone ABCDs, Vinodh Khosla ka Ghosla, or Jindals or all the big shots ATA or TANA.
For a moment - lets look at our own community that is affected.
For all those who are not affected - this may seem a non issue except for universities, hospitals, and companies like MSFT etc.. where competition and talent is of high importance and where talent cannot be compromised and this mess is affecting them - it is OONLY these people who will support us and that too, they press more on h1b rather than green cards because they want man power and dont mind if it is h1b or GC. For an avg desi or any immigrant who is looking for a h1b, he has NO clue about this mess and will be glad to embrace the H1b quota increase and OPT extensions as everyone think GC is not an issue these days.
For a moment - look at the community that is affected - people like us. WE have to be on top of this. The backlogs seem to be close to a million and look at the number of people trying to do something about the situation. Anti immigrants paint us in bad light, media confuses our issues and writes rubbish, Lou Dobbs makes baseless comments and everyone in our community does nothing but trying to track EAD etc... A handful of people make phone calls, a handful send letters, a handful help IV. Others just sit and watch and pretend they don't know anything. When we make request to join state chapters very few join. Out of that very few actively participate in activities. When IIV asks people to enter a correct profile - very few do it.
Things will improve ONLY of the entire community stands up on their own without expecting others to do something for them
GKBest
08-16 02:16 PM
This is one of the times when you put your faith into test. PRAY. It will do wonders. I also haven't received any notices yet but we all did our best. Let God do the rest.
immigc06
03-04 11:01 AM
EB3-I is a lost hope, i dont think there will be any movement for next 2-3 years. Year 2001, 2002 and 2003 had 185K H1Bs and even if we assume 100K being used by India and all of them applied for GC -(half of them in EB3 to be optimistic). The number would be 50K/year just primary applicants. So, to advance from 2002 with 50K applicants would take---you can guess. There are only ~4000 visas/year for EB3 India.
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